hey guys. something i find so true to my heart. here's an interesting read for all singles like eepei and joy! :)
let's take our time to find Mr Right...Unfolding To Others
The Journey Of Finding A Relationship
Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concepts of who we are and what we want from life. That way, we are clearer on the kind of person we want to attract into our lives.
Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don't have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled. We can also discover our intrinsic value, separate from what someone else might be reflecting back to us. Getting to know who we are and learning to love ourselves creates a solid foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship.
We are fortunate to live in a time when relationships can take on unique forms and unfold at a pace that is right for us. Friendship, dating, open relationships, long term relationships, long distance relationships, or committed relationships - we are free to choose the kind of relationships that we want.
If you want to be in relationship, but haven't found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order. Maybe all this time alone has been part of your preparation period for meeting your intended partner. Even the relationships in our lives that haven't worked out as we had hoped serve us by teaching us to make better choices in our next relationships.
Finding the relationship we want can come early or later in life. It may even happen again and again in one lifetime. There is no right or wrong for how to find a relationship nor is there a timeline that you have to follow.
Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate, and stay open to love. Remember that the journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in right relationship with yourself.
vera. the one who's always been optimistic about love. =) the one who's found new love.
that aside, here's a little note to the girl whose msn nick has been questioning what christmas is.
i may not really know the exact meaning of what christmas really is. it's been widely told that christmas is about giving and joy and peace, etc. thing is, christmas has became such a widly commercialised festive that people stop recognising it as its original reason of celebration.
stop being slaven to this materially commercialised world. though they say having a good christmas is to spend it with your loved ones. christmas does not necessary mean doomsday when you're not attached, for your loved ones may well be friends and family.
to me, christmas is a day i embrace what i have in life, what has been blessed to me. and only me. the good and the bad. i reminisce the good days but will not dwell on the bad days.
stop being upset because you cant let go of a certain relationship. (though i know it's really easier said than done.) be glad it happened, even when it's ony for awhile. find small things to be happy about. it just takes this much to step out of your unhappiness. and you know, your friends, especially me, will always be there for you.
and please, dont be rid of the present you've for me. i want it, badly. i know i've already got the best present in years by Santa himself, but what harm is there for another? =)
lastly, love yourself like no one else will. you'll go through life learning that no one loves you better/more than you yourself can/do.
from me. who loves you in heaps too, my dear friend.